This month, I had 3 friends who died, maybe 2 - 3 weeks apart per date of death. Though I must admit our relationships could be closer, I do long for more times with them. Their untimely deaths got me thinking, whether I am really living.
Everyday with the influx of so many pieces of information on the internet, the social network and easier than easy modes of communication, it’s hard to find real time for yourself. The life of an average 20 something like me is busier compared to say, 10 years ago. I guess it is the pace of the new generation that the life expectancy of people has become shorter. (The age range of my friends who died were early 20’s to early 40’s)
As my husband would say, there are so many distractions that keep us focused. But what if you don’t know where to focus? That is great dilemma.
I now work for a very wise author and speaker about doing things differently - about creativity. He states that an idea is combining two existing things and putting them together. Perhaps, it’s time for people like us to be more creative with our take on life.
Here’s a creative thought, What if we combine living and dying? Only two things can happen. It is either we live to die or we die to live. Which one is better?
Top of mind, when you think of a person who lives to die, you will think of someone who makes the most out of everything, a go getter, a good time planner, someone who takes every opportunity they get. Their greatest fear is missing out. It may seem like this person is on top of their game.
Yet, is this really a good way to live? Is it really good to live each day as if it was your last? If so, what will happen to the essence of sleeping? What will happen to thinking ahead? What will happen to long term commitments? Taking everything in, in my opinion will suck the life out of you faster because you will end up making time your breathing air.
You are pressured by the fact that you will die, so you make the most out of life. When we live to die, living will be like how we treat money. When we run out of it, we work hard to get money again because we need it. Point blank, life was not even a necessity at the beginning of our existence. LIfe was given to us. We didn’t have to work hard to get life.
It is the same with death. Yet, the sad thing is, most of us work hard now to “get death” without knowing it. It is in what we do, what we prioritize, what we give attention to, what we eat, and what makes us preoccupied that leads us to death. The distractions of today are so many, we fill our lives with “unnecessities” (gossip, scandal, unnecessary material things, survival routines and the list goes on and on)
On the other hand, when we die to live, we begin with our end in mind. It is not about sacrifice, it is not about giving up. It is about being grateful. I rather find this quite a better statement:
"We should live life as if we are dying to live."
This shows appreciation, commitment and passion. You don’t make the most out of life because you know you will die anytime soon. You just live because you would die for a chance on life.